I have always been a shy person. Well, technically no, according to my friends.
“Jasmine? Shy? HAH!”
Okay, scratch that. Maybe I’m not shy, to SOME people. But generally, I am. Generally.
When it comes to boys though, I can be quite straight forward. If I find the guy attractive, I’d tell him straight up; provided it’s in a controlled setting like school or online, where I’m comfortable enough to just say things like that.
I told this guy I liked him the other day, he just froze. I felt like an idiot but I had to let it out because I figured, since I would never meet him any more, I might as well tell him that I fantasize about going to the mall with him, hand in hand and smiling proudly. But of course I didn’t tell him that part. That’s just borderline creepy :/
It turned out to be a pretty good outcome after that. We became closer as friends and he started to notice me more, though we didn’t end up with each other or anything. That was highly expected because we weren’t compatible at all. But it doesn’t kill to tell somebody you like them though right? Yeah ;)
There was also this one time where I’d ask a guy for his Skype account, then a day later, I asked him to chat with me via mic then finally, I asked him to switch his cam on. He was surprised to as how forward I was. He said he have been wanting to do those things with me (Skype, mic chat and cam chat), but he didn’t know if I was into his suggestions, so he just bailed on the idea.
I read somewhere that guys like it if girls are the one who ask them out or be straight forward about their (the girl’s) feelings to them. They like to be chased because for once, they are not the one chasing.
I personally don’t know how true that is. I just think that some guys don’t like girls being too forward because it would ’emasculate’ them or something. I think it’s a guy thing. (I asked some of my guy friends about this)
Asking a guy out is emasculating them? Na-ahhhhh! [Source]
But some guys like it though. They think confidence is sexy. Undeniable though. ;)
If a guy hates girls that are forward or brave, then there is definitely something wrong with them! Instead of feeling that your ‘manhood’ is threatened, you should instead feel proud that a girl finds you so attractive that they’re actually telling you about it!
It’s the biggest compliment ever I think and mind you, such a turn on!
So boys, I’m curious. Do you like straight forward girls or those shy girls who would wait for you to act first?