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I appreciate all your comments; whether in support or against my opinion on change, especially on Amalina’s change. All of those who commented on this post have made really amazing points and it really made me think… A LOT! Sometimes you have to go against your own opinions to fully understand the whole issue.
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Thank you for reading everybody! Appreciate it lots!
My friend recently got a smack in the face when her friends said that she changed after spending 1.5 years in Kuala Lumpur. They viewed her change as something negative as she is now too busy to hang out with them or too occupied with her own life in KL to actually contact them.
This is perhaps true, but what they fail to see is that she does hang out with her friends when she’s back in KK, just not with these bunch of friends who she considers as being immature and fake. They act like they are total saints by judging her in her way of leading her own life when they themselves clearly have their own problems with their lives but choose to judge others’ lives instead.
I’m not here to judge (well, I am), but shouldn’t you take care of your married boyfriends before you talk about other people’s lives?
When I think about this ‘change’ that most people find so negative about regarding their own friends who went to KL or overseas to study, I cringe. I like change. I think, when you are exposed to a whole new scene while you’re out there studying, you are bound to be exposed to different ideas or set of morals that would require you to change because it is a sign that you are growing up; that you have fully absorbed your surrounding and act upon it.
You’re young and you only live once, so live a little. Experiment on shit, be curious, get to know people, change the way you look… LIVE.
I personally believe that it is when you don’t change… Now, that is the biggest problem, because it means that you are not exposing yourself enough with all the opportunities that you have been presented with.
It is not hard to ignore that there may be changes that are negative, such as your friend turning to drugs to be accepted by his/her set of friends abroad or going against the Eastern or Malaysian culture by dying your hair, going out partying or dressing a certain way, but such is change; personality change, physical change… Change.
Though I personally don’t see the wrong in going against the ‘Eastern’ values, which is why I don’t see the whole negative hoo-haa about Amalina’s change. I mean, come on… What is Eastern and Western values anyway? You can’t expect us to be caught up with only one value when we live in an integrated world now, do you?
So, someone leaked current Facebook photos of Amalina to the public which (unsurprisingly) made the public be so interested in her change and I can understand that. I mean, this was a BIG change. I understand how her change sparked anger to some people who criticized her tremendous change saying that she has tattered her image as this idealized Malaysian girl who got good grades and turned into this wild chick. And that hopefully she will find the ‘right’ path again blah blah blah.
What is the ‘right’ path anyway?
Yes, she may have done some drastic changes to herself, but unless she is out on the dance floor in her undies with booze and drugs, I don’t see any wrong. I think she looks pretty rad with her new found style. Ala-ala Mizz Nina gituuuu… (Translation: Just like Mizz Nina) Who, by the way, is also a Malaysian and nobody has any problems with her ‘Westernized’ image.
Truth is, we all don’t know her personally, nobody does, aside from her own set of friends and family. So we can’t really judge her. Yes, she may leave her hijab and dyed her hair, but does that make her a bad, sinful person? Okay, maybe it does for some people, but at the end of the day, don’t you think that what’s inside that counts? It may sound cliché, but isn’t that the truth though?
I know a lot of ‘wild’-looking people who are very spiritual, and I dare say that I too know a lot of religious people who did bad things, so how come we’re not criticizing them as well?
I like how some people just have SOOOO much time on their hands to actually create a collage on her transformation. Talk about boredom.
I personally know someone who’s well respected because of his achievements in his studies and dedication on big scale projects that benefits society who is as crazy and wild, though not to the scale of doing drugs or any crazy shit like that. When he is in front of people, he has to be proper and stuff, but his friends and family know that he’s a total goofball at heart.
I like what my teacher said about her change.
People’s morals change. People’s beliefs change, evolve. Malaysian society has a prescribed set of morals that you will find are contradicted by most of the free world. She experienced freedom from those constraints. You will all experience it. I don’t think god is concerned with who she dates or what she wears.
And a big amen to that.
Yes, her change may be a shock but it’s not something totally out of the ordinary! I swear that there are some people who had a more negative change than this. Drugs, orgies, spending your parents’ money to do other shit… TONS. And believe me, you don’t have to go out of Malaysia to experience these negative changes. Like I said, we live in an integrated world where values come criss-crossing our way, so it’s not a shock when these Western values come to our shores.
I know that a lot of people are shocked and sadden by her transformation, but hey, don’t worry… As long as Amalina knows her priorities and limits, how she look should be the last thing everyone should be worried about.
Now, let’s get back to our own incredible lives and make the best of it shall we? After all, we only live once so we should stop worrying about others and start living our own! *wink wink*
Amalina did an interview with some local reporters. You can watch the interview here.