How porn (indirectly) contribute to positive body image

NOTE: Read the post. Trust me, it’s worth every minute spent ;) At least, I believe so!! :) Plus, it gives you a reason to watch porn and look at naked pictures!! LOL!

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I have a confession to make… I watch porn.

Here’s another confession… I like it.

Here’s yet another confession… I confess too much. :P

Before you get all disturbed (lol!) at the thought of me watching porn AND at my title, let me tell you this. I cannot deny, in a million years, that porn contributed in ruining my self-esteem. Not only did I get pressured from Hollywood on what the ‘ideal’, ‘beautiful’ body should look like, seeing naked, slim, heavy silicon-chested porn stars didn’t help as well!

But over time, we all tend to learn that there are different types of porn out there catering to different types of people. Upon this realization, I came to know that not EVERYONE enjoy looking at silicons and super skinny waist. In fact, I was quite surprised to know the different categories that porn sites have; MILF (Mother’s I Would Like To Fuck), mature, teen, BBW (Big Beautiful Women) etc…

BBW sailor ;)

The thing is, I believe in the power of shock treatment, in its literal sense.

I’m a big girl, I’m not going to deny or lie about that. In the past, I would’ve. I’ll meet people online and show them pictures of my face (rarely a full body picture) where I would look slimmer because of a certain angle it was taken; a constructed picture of myself. But recently, I tend to not do that any more and just give them a full body picture. I mean, like it or not, you have to accept the fact people come in all shapes and sizes, and if these so-called new-found friends think that only the Hollywood-sized people roam the world, they should take a mirror and take a good look at themselves!

Unless though, they actually do look like Hollywood, then uhm, yeah, my argument is invalid :P

Haha! [source]

But going back to the shock treatment bit, focussing on BBW… I have to say that I was really surprised that there are actually quite a number of men out there who love big women, and what was surprising was that, some of these women are big. At least, bigger than me. And yet here they are, being worshipped by really hot men.

I know that it’s porn and it’s ‘staged’, but I mean, just the thought that normal people would find this sexy is a shocker. Just think about it. They won’t make BBW porn if there isn’t a market for it, and clearly there is or you wouldn’t find BBW porn stars or blogs of plus sized girls showing off their bodies on the Internet or have people commenting on how beautiful and sexy their bodies are.

Thus brings me to my next point: BLOGS.

I’m not saying that porn contributed to the idea of having girls (and guys, mind you!) running to post pictures of themselves online; on blogs mostly. But I do believe that it contributed to that, somewhat. And trust me when I say that posting naked pictures of yourselves is not necessarily ALL bad and immoral. Sometimes, it does have a positive impact too.

We all have body-related self-esteem issues. Even super models and celebrities have self-esteem issues (cite needed, but I still do believe that it’s true!). Self esteem, we all have it in us. Not all of us can be fully confident and happy with ourselves. Some of us can, and that’s only because they concentrate on other plus points of themselves; like nice breasts, nails,hands, waist, thighs, legs…

I believe that the only way we can accept ourselves is by embracing the naked body, our naked body, and all its beauty.

You may flinch looking at some parts of your body and wished that it would be different; small breasts, big breasts, big thighs, boy-ish figure… But trust me, it’s an amazing feeling to actually get to know your body and find out all the different bits about it and once you do that, you’ll learn to appreciate it. You will struggle to appreciate it, but in time, you will somehow. It’s a process, so don’t hurry! :)

Photo posted on All Sizes Are Hot. [source]

What she wrote on her photo description:

My tummy has been the hardest part of my body for me to accept. It’s got stretch marks and it’s jiggly and sometimes I hate it. But it’s a part of me and I love who I am, so I am learning to love my tummy as well. I am so inspired by all the beautiful women who post on here! I am always looking for more beautiful chubby girls (and guys) to follow on here, so if you’d like to check out my blog, go ahead! http://eunoiamusings.tumblr.com/

I’ve seen a lot of blogs (such as All Sizes Are Hot, for example; NSFW) where people post naked (albeit anonymously) pictures of themselves online. I didn’t understand why at first, but after hundreds of pictures and their justifications about why they did what they did, I tend to feel good about myself. Not because I think that I have a better body than them, but because I view this sense of wanting to show themselves off as a way of boosting their own confidence, so in turn, I see them as being confident and I feed off this confidence. These girls’ bodies are not Hollywood material, they look just like me, and yet, they have the courage to post themselves naked for people to see and people actually respond to that; giving positive comments. Sexual comments, but positive nonetheless.

I mean, some sexual comments can be a form of flattery. Emphasis on the ‘some‘. :P

Also, I’m not saying that you should go and start posting naked pictures of yourself now. I’m just suggesting that you should go to these websites, look at the pictures and other people’s comments. That’s good enough to boost your confidence!

Read about this girl’s struggle with accepting her body. I like how she’s 18 and she has a positive outlook on her body. [NSFW]
And I like how there are blogs (like Deep Desire Enquiries) that caters to answering questions about sex, body and relationship issues. I think it’s really healthy to talk about all these issues openly (anonymous or not) and not be in the dark about it, and that blog helps a lot.

Also, I would HIGHLY recommend you to watch Laci Green’s videos because she promotes sex and body positiveness. She is AMAZING. I love her to bits! Here’s her Tumblr account and website too. And no, she does not post naked pictures of herself, so don’t even think about it! :P But anyway, you can thank me later ;)

But not all blogs that talk about positive body image should show naked pictures of people; just like how Laci does it. Another blogger that I love is Gabi (a rad fashion blogger), Jay Miranda and Nadia Aboulhosn (a fashion designer, fashion blogger and plus size model) who is super confident with their bodies, it’s crazy! I love it!

Here are some really good plus sized fashion bloggers too who talk about fashion and self-confidence; Big Hips Red Lips, Live A Little and Rawr Manifesto. Oh, and Curvy Is The New Black is an awesome blog that promotes all curvy women! It’s super awesome!

Laci Green is super awesome. Tell her I told you that ;)
Gabi in one of her plus size bikini
Jay Miranda is gorgeoussssssss!
Super gorgeous Nadia Aboulhosn!

Porn introduces nakedness to us and the different porn genres enable us to understand that different people have different interests and that it is the media that politicize on what is the ‘ideal’ body without realizing that every body size is ideal and beautiful.

Although I do prefer me some Chris Hemsworth-type bodies, I personally prefer a much heavier (not obese, just heaver) guy to compliment my heavier size. Can you imagine how fucking fat I’d look like beside a skinny boyfriend? There is such thing as optical illusion and having a boyfriend my size is my way of actually illusionizing my body to seem thinner :P But I ain’t trying to be mean! It’s a win-win situation. Think about it! I’ll appear thin and he’ll appear thin too! :P

But in all seriousness, I won’t date a guy just because he makes me ‘thinner’. That’s just shallow. :/

Cute couple; Adele and Simon.

Another reason why I’m not so worried about what other people think of my body is because I have met a lot of men (most of whom are SOOOO hot!) who told (and is telling!) me that I’m beautiful the way I am. I tell them all the time that I hated how my body looks like but the thing is though, to them, it’s beautiful. They appreciate a woman’s anatomy because, obviously, we’re fucking hot! :P

But I won’t deny that some guys do have preference as to what they like (just like us girls). Though, don’t let that dampen your hopes! I do believe that there is someone for us, they’re just got lost finding their way is all! ;)

Super adorable couple; picture and story taken by Fuck Yeah Chubby Couples.

Her story:

My fiance’ and myself. He loves every bit of me, and quite frankly, he can barely keep his hands off me. When I tell him I’m fat or chubby, he just tells me to shut up because I am gorgeous. 

I used to be uncomfortable about myself, but he seriously has changed me. I love my body, I love being chubby. Period.

Love your bodies, dolls! Srsly♥

If you want to search for more blogs/websites that features body positive stuff, try Googling for it. Or you can even go on Tumblr and search for whatever it is that you want to search. Because I’m interested in seeing pictures of women with bodies closer to mine, my search on Tumblr are words such as ‘chubby’ and ‘curvy’. A word of caution though, be ready to get flooded with naked pictures of both MEN and WOMEN. Mostly women, but meh. If it’s a guy, I do believe that most of them (if not all) are gay. Just a heads up!

And if you do plan to watch porn and if it is your first time especially, try not to watch porn-star porn. Watch those ‘reality’ stuff or ‘amature’. These are real people with non-Hollywood type bodies.

Here’s a picture of me with my gorgeous (and thinner :p) baby sister, J. Tell me how I can not be pressured to look thin with her around!! Seriously! Lol!

Okay, before you torch me up because of your disagreement with my thoughts, let me tell you that this is just one-sided opinion; my opinion. I know that there are a million ways to improve your self-esteem and this is just one of them. This (going through porn and naked pictures of women of all shapes and sizes) might not even be an option for you because of your cultural and religious background, and it’s fine. DON’T follow what I said if it’s against what you were brought up.

But anyway, that is all I have to say! More in the future I hope! I feel strongly about thissss!! :)

Last image before I go though. ;)

FACT

11 thoughts on “How porn (indirectly) contribute to positive body image

    1. Thank you Rachel! See I told you that porn is positive, in a way. :P More reason for us to indulge ourselves in porn and naked pictures!! :D

  1. Thank you for writing this (and your post called Porn vs. Real World). I am so glad I found these. You are wonderful.

  2. Dear Jasmine,

    I also like porn, also I think that Laci Green is great. I think your blogg is great.

    Best Wishes.

    Johan

    Sweden

  3. Dear Jasmine,

    Thanks for your answer. I have studied the history of Malaysia. Interesting country. May I Ask you are you chinese or malay?

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