Feminists out there, REAL feminists, i.e., the ones who really go down to their knees (no puns intended, I swear!), digging up the soil and really REALLY getting their hands dirty… Yeah them… They might hate me.
You see, I view myself as a feminist sometimes, or rather, I see certain things under a feminist lens (whatever that means); from how women a treated by men to how women are treated by women, I’d cringe when something not right is done onto other women, despite it being something small; i.e., telling the woman to wash the laundry just because it’s their ‘duty’ as women.
If that happens to me, that is my cue to scream out, “Don’t tell me what my job is. I am a feminist!”
Or the other day when my boyfriend told me to shave my legs to which I responded with a smack on his arm and screamed, “Don’t tell me to shave my legs, I’m a feminist!”
Or that time when my boyfriend told me I need to wear more dresses which made me all, “Just because I’m a girl, doesn’t mean I have to look like one. I’m a feminist after all, we do not bow down to patriarchal needs!”
I feel like the word ‘feminist’ is like the new ‘period’. You know how if you’re in a bad mood and people would be all, “Oh, maybe she’s on her period” but actually you’re not, but everyone blames the period anyway. Yeah, that.
I cringe at myself sometimes when I use the term ‘feminist’ to express myself. What does being a feminist mean? I am not sure. But surely, it doesn’t make someone a feminist when they keep using the word ‘feminist’ as an excuse to not feel oppressed by someone, especially men or anyone with patriarchal ideals; i.e., friends telling you to not be so sexually active, because it’s not a ‘lady-like’ thing to do. Fuck being a lady, if men can fuck around, women can too! It’s not just men who have desires, you know!
I’m going off topic.
My point is that it does not make you a feminist just because you shouted, “I’m a feminist!“. I mean, even if it does, how do you know you are one? Does thinking under the feminist lens make you one? Does working with organizations and getting your hands ‘dirty’ officially makes you one?
One thing’s for sure though, screaming “I’m a feminist” is definitely a way to make the feminist community look like they are just some whiny, bratty girls with their girl club and being all against men. Which obviously is not the case (entirely). I’m not some feminist expert or something so I don’t speak for the feminist community. I am merely pointing at how silly I feel sometimes when I look back at my “I’m a feminist!” screaming self. *smacks head*
Anyway, here are a list of requests/advice that would make any feminist-thinking girls out there shout, “I’m a feminist!” (Just as a joke though, don’t take it seriously)
Mom: “Clean your room, you’re a girl, you’re not suppose to be messy!”
Me: “But I’m a feminist!”
Boyfriend: “Cook for me, babe.”
Me: “I don’t cook! You cook! I’m a feminist!”
(Male) Teacher: “Legs off the chair please!”
Me: “Is it because I’m a girl? I’m not lady-like enough if I put them up? But I’m a feminist!”
Brother: “Stop looking at boys. Only boys look at girls. You’re disgusting.”
Me: “Girls have needs too. Live with it. I’m a feminist.”
(Girl) Friend: “What a bad driver! No wonder, a woman is driving!”
Me: “You know that you’re a woman too right? Stop demeaning other women! Be a feminist!”